RECONCILIATION

Part II

How wonderful it is, how pleasant, for God’s people to live together in harmony………that is where the Lord has promised His blessings – life that never ends.  (Psalms 133)

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When you accept God, you will be bestowed with the grace to accept yourself and your partner. The relationship given by God should not be broken.

But, aren't there numerous broken chords that ought to be tied?

 You may be a son or daughter not accepted by your father or mother or it could be that you would not have accepted them.   

It is time to seal the cracks that you have with your parents as it has erected an invisible wall between God and you. Unless you strive to correct it, you will observe a downfall in your life, resulting in you being a unsuccessful individual.

Remember God does not want to see His beloved children like this.

 The more arrogant, stubborn and delay in correcting yourself, your actions will result in many people’s tears which will reach to the Lord, who cannot close His eyes to injustice.

By the arrival of other generation, events turn out to be more serious.

That is why is it more vital to clear the issues as early as possible and be free from misery.

 God is very thorough with the correction of His children; and therefore He chose and sends prophets among the people to deliver His message.

There are also instances when God uses our little children as His tools to correct and reveal His teachings and will for us.

 When you observe that your child reacts to your advice adversely, instead of punishing and reprimanding them, turn to the Lord and ask forgiveness for your wrongdoing. Be humble and eager to correct yourself.

 The Holy Bible says, “The children are a gift from the Lord, they are a real blessing. The sons a man has when he is young are like arrows in a soldier’s hand.” (Psalms 127:3-4)

Some parents tend to be too casual when their little ones get mischievous; forgetting that if they are not corrected at the proper time, may turn out to be serious offenders in the future.

Every moment God is watching such parents and warning them.

It is time to bring changes in your behavior towards God and your child.

Break the walls that were build up because of you and your attitude, as the wicked world with its fast, foolish growth is awaiting to swallow your next generation for the reason that if you are the cause for it, it is truly terrible for you.  

Check and reconcile with all the relationships so as to bring up your child with God’s blessings. Accept Lord Jesus as your Spiritual Teacher, learn about Him and as parents spend time together with God, because Lord Jesus says, “I tell you more : whenever two of you on earth agree about anything you pray for, it will be done for you by my Father in heaven.”  (Matt 18:19) 

You have been trying this for many years, but in vain.  Why? 

Take a look back again, there could be much many more walls put up by you against your blessings.

Don’t think Sister is being too harsh with you.  Never! dear ones. I am a lady who sacrificed her family for the sake of the Gospel as per the Will of God to win families.

It is my responsibility to help you with true spiritual knowledge, so that families may be saved. By spreading the knowledge we would be able to help save each other, successfully defeating the cunning enemy. It is only for your peaceful future and for the salvation of your soul from the cruel foe fighting against out Heavenly Father, who is so full of pure love.

If you have ears, listen!

Let’s take a walk down the memory lane to the early days of your life. Engraved in your thoughts will be your home a dwelling of  your family— be it poor, middle class, or rich, orthodox consisting of grandparents, parents, siblings, other relatives etc. surrounded by good neighbors, teachers, friends, and other well wishers etc;

Where are they now? How are they doing? Are you in good terms with them ? Do you visit, help or console them often? Are they in good health or bedridden? Or are you bed ridden? Could be that some are leading a lifeless and meaningless life? Are they visiting you? Do you invite them or they keep inviting you? Deep in your heart are you cheerful when they reflect in your memory?

Where is the good Samaritan who helped you to progress in your life by bringing up your child? There are other few who emptied themselves by helping you and your siblings etc;

These are the few among the numerous questions God your Creator is raising over you!

God wants us to renew every relationship for the welfare of our descendants.

How can you forget the old home where you were born and lived with your siblings in limitations? In the absence of your parents, how you overcame the fear of the heavy thunderstorm by tightly holding your sibling. The meals she/ he fed you when in hunger, sat, cried and consoled you when sick in bed, the roads traveled without caring the distance, be it to school, church etc; games you played together; learning the initial lessons of sharing and caring for each other; the movies you watched together, etc;

If possible, put a pause to your busy life to recollect and reconcile with them to make a complete family tree to introduce them to your children, inviting them to take a dip in the blessings that God has showered over you.

Our Good Loving Father desires a unity like the Holy Trinity i.e. the Father, Son and Holy Spirit. A tri-chord will not break easily. So reconcile with yourself, parents, siblings, children etc and then soon God will bless you and your dream home.

Certainly it is not easy to reconcile and patch up the differences because evil has pierced through it. But the Lord Jesus who is the same yesterday, today and forever can penetrate into our past and remove the obstacles. Certain incidents may be fresh and cancerous.

You may deny all this, saying that you have nothing against them.

But analyze for yourself, if you are peace when alone? Is your soul safe in God’s hands? Are you content when you offer prayer and sacrifices? Are you able to present peace to your partner and children? Are you truly guilt free?

The Lord is giving an opportunity to recollect and repent truly for having forgetting them when life was greener on your side.

Let us make use of this opportunity to discard any miscommunication and reach out to our siblings and relatives, forgetting what so ever may be the reason we drifted apart.  

The greatest gift we can give each other is the ‘gift of prayer’.

The Holy Bible instructs us: “First of all, then, I urge that petitions, prayers, requests and thanksgivings be offered to God for all people.” (1Timothy 2:1)

The Lord is always looking for someone who will to pray. As their names or any memory comes before you simply lift them to the Lord in prayer. Ask Him to help them and release His Power and Love on their behalf.

Talk to the Lord as you would to your dad.

“Father, I pray, please meet their needs, as Your heart desire be done.”

The best way to begin reconnecting is by lifting them in Prayer to the Father.

“You are the God who works miracles; You showed your might among the nations.” (Psalms 77:14)

Lord, grant me your blessing and let your light adorn and shine on my family tree.

With Love filled Blessings,

Your Sister in Christ

RECONCILIATION

Part I

How wonderful it is, how pleasant, for God’s people to live together in harmony………that is where the Lord has promised His blessings – life that never ends.  (Psalms 133)

During a public ministry service, a mother pulling her nine year old son approached me. “Ever since his birth, I have lost all my peace. Tried sending him to my mother’s place, then admitted him twice to a hostel, but all my attempts to inculcate some discipline in him goes futile. Why did God give me such a huge punishment? I myself have a lot of health issues and many a times, I attempted to end my life regards to the shame and disgrace he gifts me every time.”

I turned my attention towards the little boy, who was all the more in his own world.  Placing my hands and blessing them, I was guided by the Lord to give her an appointment, which gave me a chance to meet the mother personally.

During the conversation, she explained that she was a devotee of Christ, so I casually enquired about her spiritual life.  The very next moment the Savior revealed to me the critical situation of the family.

Dear ones in Christ, the Holy Bible says, “Parents do not treat your children in such a way as to make them angry, instead bring them up with Christian discipline and instruction.”  (Eph 6:4)

Thereafter, I took an opportunity to meet the child alone. After a casual talk, I began to ask him to address his issue. The innocence look mixed with sorrows was overpowering. Suddenly he hugged me tightly, and began to cry severely as he burst out, “I am alone, and I have nobody. I hate myself and each and everyone. Even today mother brought me forcefully to you. You treated me so gently, that I like you. Can I be with you? I promise to obey you and become like you. But I hate my home, my family, my dad. He is addicted to alcohol and brings home a bad set of friends. Once drunk, he beats up my mother and abuses her with bad foul language. She always cries. He does not allow me to do anything I wish. I hate my life. I do not want to obey dad, hence I don’t study.”

When the head of the family is too busy with no time for his wife and children, he is disregarding his God given responsibilities. How do we expect a child to be polite and obedient towards such a father?

Each heart no matter big or small; are totally broken and deep rooted with unpleasant memories, witnessed from childhood.

When parents construct a platform for their own pleasures, not recalling that there is a Heavenly Father, who watches them and to whom they are accountable for each and minute second of their life, time, skills, family, siblings and neighbor.

It is only through the parent’s mutual respect and love that their children would grow in age as well as wisdom and grace.

It is the equal duty of both the father and mother to truthfully accept self and each other; seek God, accepting Him as the mediator of the wedlock and honor Him by obeying His Law. Be sure to keep your gaze fixed on God, all the while drawing all the strength, patience and grace from Him, to carry out the daily responsibilities without fail.

When the child observes his/ her parents obeying the Great Grandpa above (God), willingly the child will be guided by God.

 Parents! Do you struggle hard to accumulate richness of this world, dreaming about the day when your child would grow up and attain higher position and make your name prominent? How many times have you secretly planned for his/her future keeping away your life partner, so that the child grows up to fulfill your dreams and desires?  

All your ambitious plans and fruits of your hard labor would deplete if you do not care to seek the will of God along with your partner before charting the future plans for His gift to you (your child).  

Your name, fame and wealth and all your goodness will be washed out by God himself, because the connectivity is broken. 

So reconcile with God today!

Likewise, the fate of those husbands and wives, who have been living together for years yet are unable to accept each other wholeheartedly, beware of the tragedy that awaits you. Each member in a family has a different story to share.

Let me utilize this opportunity to pen certain fundamental truths for the success of life!

Marriage is sacrament that calls for several and countless sacrifices in each step.  It is a life that consists not only of two different individuals who take the promise but the truthfulness and acceptance of two different families. This could be termed as the first and foremost foundation towards the success of marital life.

When a man and woman commit themselves fully and with a contrite heart during the sacrament of matrimony,  God showers certain qualities like acceptance, truthfulness, love, patience, forgiveness, sacrifice, endurance, punctuality, kindness, compassion,  upon the couple during their marital vows which is need for entering into a new mutual sacrificial life. 

So if you have failed to reconcile with God prior to receiving this Sacrament, surely there will be failures from your side, such as lack of self acceptance, non-acceptance of your partner, her /his family, child, etc.  Since sin always brings disaster in our life so the web in your heart will bring failures and brokenness in your life.

Can guilt convey joy to a person?  Or can a blameworthy person make her /his partner happy?  A pretender cannot trust others because he is already enslaved to fear, guilt, anxiety and anger. 

These attitudes will create misunderstandings and empty out the happiness of the other person.  However good natured and soft spoken a spouse may be, do not forget that if they are subjected to injustice, unfaithfulness etc; gradually the lamp of faith in God would be put off.

That is why Lord Jesus commanded, “If anyone should cause one of these little ones to loss his faith in me, it would be better for that person to have a large milestone tied around his neck and be thrown into the sea.” 

With the aid of the above verse from the Holy Bible evaluate yourself!  Review if you are the reason for your life partner’s loss of faith in God? Is your nature of concealing your faults and not being truthful the sole cause for bringing miseries upon your family? The Lord is teaching each one of us that we are answerable for the injustice that we bring upon others.

So if you are ready to correct yourself, you will be free from God’s penalty.  Our loving God is full of mercy and slow to anger.  He showers His promises to thousands of generations but He punishes up to three to four generations.  The Holy Bible says do not delay your repentance thinking that God will not punish.  A stubborn person will be burdened with troubles.  (Sirach 3)

Are you chocked up and suffocating spiritually, mentally and physically?  The Holy Bible says, “Have you sinned, my son? Don't do it again, and pray for forgiveness for what you have already done. Avoid sin as if it were a snake. If you get too near, it will sink its teeth into your soul like a lion, and destroy you. (Sirach 21:1-2)

Today is the day and the right time for you to reconcile with God.  Do not delay any further.

 A family counseling could assist you to the right direction and release you from the evil trap.  When you accept God, you would be able to accept yourself and your partner.

“How wonderful and pleasant it is for God’s people to live together in harmony… (Psalm 133)

                                                                                             (To be continued)

With Love filled Blessings,

Your Sister in Christ

Kindly Note:

As per the message from God of KLWC, our team will be conducting an in-house Night Vigil service from 11 pm (1/11/2015) to 6 am (2/11/2015)   Your Thanksgivings and Prayer Requests are welcome.

ARE THEY HAPPY

The Holy Bible says, “A stubborn person will be burdened down with troubles. (Sirach 3:27)

Blessed by God’s grace are those who capable to view all the events and incidents of this small world and daily life through the spiritual aspect cause that’s God’s perceptive of our actions. Those who perceive those tearful days of life as a spiritual carnival, the acceptance of the lost days as God’s plan and purpose and the deep wounds as the drops of anointing oil of comfort achieve immense success in their life.

A lady approaching me for prayer sighed deeply as she murmured her petition, “Dear Sister, I have nobody and am all alone. My husband passed away when my children were very young. Children now are grown up, settled and busy in their world.  They have no time to visit me or inquire about my whereabouts. They send me more than enough money, not knowing that my happiness and comfort does not lie in it. Can you pray to your God to gift my remaining days to my children and to call me to His land.”  

Her request moved my heart.

The Holy Bible says, “Honor your father with all your heart, and never forget how your mother suffered when you were born. Remember that you owe your life to them. How can you ever repay them for all they have done for you?” (Sirach 7:27-28)

How soon do we forget the teachings of God our Father, who honor and care every parent individually? How often we forget His instruction to us children, to visualize and consider parents as our own eyes?

A visit to any old age homes or a peep into verandah of most homes highlights the sight of old parents, lonely and unhappy, awaiting the arrival of their own children, all desiring for few words of comfort and acceptance.  All their anxiety face and tearful eyes yearn patiently to get a glimpse of their dear children.

Some parents have more deadly fate. They do no longer wish to see the cruel and frustrated face of their children.  Their parenting  is questioned every now and then, when their children who they brought up with so much love , accuse and corrects them not considering  their sacrifices.  Arguments and accusations are shot down at parents who get depressed, adding more meaninglessness to their sunset phase.  A sight so heart breaking but so common these days.

Let us turn to the Gospel of St. John. In the scripture we hear a voice saying to Jesus, “I have no one.” Read it on and we learn about the man who was ill for 38 years , lying helpless with no one to help. (John 5)

Dear ones do not just consider the incident as a mere miracle. Through this chapter, may the Word of God help you listen to the cry of your parents who broke their life to pieces for your sake, your bright future.

Question yourself, “What all have I rejected for my parents? Have I given up anything for their welfare and comfort?

Unless you return their favor, seven times, it will not be counted in the shore of blessings, because the Holy Bible says, “Respect your father and your mother, as I, the Lord your God, command you, so that all may go well with you and so that you may live a long time in the land I am giving you.” (Deu. 5:16)

Dear ones, the wounds will not be healed by verbal comfort and prayers. Along with it, it is mandatory  to add a loving approach, compassionate look, merciful fondle and a heartfelt embrace. Above all, it is utmost necessary to have a safe and sound place and the feel of belonging to it.

By denying them of their above rights and packing them off to old age home, throwing them out forcibly to the nearby shed etc, in their sunset phase will shake the foundation of your own family, as the Holy Bible again mentions, “when parents give their blessing, they give strength to their children’s home, but when they curse their children, they destroy the very foundations.” (Sirach 3:9)

If you have forsaken your parents, for your very own selfish motives, pleasure and convenience and denied and stripped them off the due care and protection they ought to receive,  and  their tears reach the altar of the Most High God, remember as per God’s Law you are indebted to them and a price has to be paid for every account that God holds you responsible.

When you flourish in life, do not forget to look into the account book of God, opened for you, that clearly indicates the struggles and sacrifice they carried on their shoulders and the anxiety in their heart to bring you up.  They have tuned you to believe, to live and love, to forgive and forget, to be polite and accept everything,; if you  such have parental upbringing experience, do praise and thank God now without further delay.

Instead of stretching out your money bags towards them or feed them out of duty or visit them once or twice a year to delight them and others; open your hearts truly, give them a better position in your family and reside them in your heart.  It is good to remember, that there are many indebted loving stories within you to share with them and to make their soul peaceful at the same time making your life secured.

Your shoulder bears the very genuine fact of this parental debt from God, who wants us to be blessed by the fruits of His children. They loved you more than their life and everything in it, and lifted their hands to God always for your sake.

Let us utter a Living word to them not forgetting the very fact that parents are the visible God of our life.

If they have completed their journey and passed away, always remember to pray and offer the sacrifice for the salvation of their soul.

“Never seek honor for yourself at your father’s expense; it is not to your credit if he is dishonored. Your own honor comes from the respect that you show to your father. If children do not honor their mothers, it is their own disgrace. My son, take care of your father when he grows old; give him no cause for worry as long as he lives. Be sympathetic even if his mind fails him; don’t look down on him just because you are strong and healthy. The Lord will not forget the kindness you showed to your father; it will help you to make up for your sins. When you are in trouble, the Lord will remember your kindness and will help you;  your sins will melt away like frost in warm sunshine. Whoever abandons his parents or gives them cause for anger may as well be cursing the Lord; he is already under the Lord’s curse. (Sirach 3:10-16)

With Love filled blessings,
your Sister in Christ

A  FAMILY THAT SACRIFICES IN THE

 LIGHT OF GOSPEL

The Lord brings the counsel of the nations to nothing; He frustrates the plans of the people. The counsel of the Lord stands forever, the thoughts of His heart to all generations.  (Psalms 33:10-11)

PART III

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A family attains discipline and punctuality when the Spirit of God fills in our home.  In order to obtain a happy family, each member of the family must accept that they have their own portion of responsibility and duties. 

Nowadays, the virtue and purity of marital life is perishing, its results are reflected even in its fruits. Look! How quickly the links of marital life get separated and broken.  Even minute misunderstandings destroy countless families.  Let us explore into this matter.

After giving birth to children, it is the marital relationship that is the center point and God reveals the new face of His plan to the husband and wife.

Are there any parents who do not complain about their children? Right from the moment a baby is formed in the womb, the thoughts and emotions of the parents are mixed in the blood of the baby.  All these habits and personalities keep growing in their little minds as they grow up.  For no reason at all, the children  become slave of anger, fear, anxiety, sadness and hot temper. 

Children show great love and trust towards their parents and their closeness towards them incomparable.  It is quite natural for a child to jump into its mother’s arms wherever he sees his mother.

Children who are conceived unexpectedly may not receive enough love from their parents. Though they may not express it but deep within it is a cause of their restlessness and  the new born baby can experience and understand it. Such children expect a lot of safety and protection from their parents often and  become prone to untoward incidents.  Thoughts such as ‘My parents don’t need me’ often arises within them. As the children grow the good and evil thoughts in their mind keep growing. 

It is an important duty of parents to lay a good foundation in their children’s lives and the best ideas are found and explained in the Holy Scriptures.

In trust and unity and in the holy knowledge of God’s son and according to measure of Christ’s perfection, all should reach and become a mature person.

If parents are unable to help or don’t take interest in their children to  develop a true and steadfast love , they will not be safeguarded against iniquities and mistakes.  If parents are to be pleased in their children’s future, then they will definitely teach them the rules and regulations.

You, who are believers in Christ Jesus, when  pressed down with problems or put down by failures, would be best and appropriate to seek solutions for your problems in the Word of God.  All these things have to be taught to the children their childhood itself.  As time goes by in moments of doubts and confusion, these little verses will become the light for their feet.

Psychiatrists advise, “Do not punish children.”  But the Holy Bible says, “One who does not use the stick to discipline his child, does not love him.”  Discipline is essential to develop obedience and good habits. 

Those who love their children will not hesitate to correct them.  The Word of God says, “You will reap what you sow.” When you keep satisfying the liking and needs of your children, you reap a big harvest of bad habits and indiscipline.

Children are obliged to happily obey their parents and it is one of the commandments, so that they obtain goodness and attain long life on this earth.

When you renew the relationship between parents and children in the right manner, the home becomes heaven.  The Lord grants children with a peaceful future and at that moment exceedingly beautiful heavenly paradise comes into existence.  Children should realize that there are limitations in everyone’s life.  When the children realize that if they reject the just limitations in any manner they receive punishment, then thereafter they will themselves find the limitations.

Parents realize that it is quite natural for a child to play and enjoy his life but it is equally important that the child should be handed over small responsibilities. It is essential to have a control in watching T.V., etc. and it should not become an instrument of babysitting. 

Dear ones, you desire to give good nutritious food to your children.  Similarly, it is necessary to give good food for the growth of mind.  Jesus said, “Your food doesn’t go into your heart.  But what goes into our mind touches our heart.”  The time a child spends before the T.V. affects his life to a great extent. 

‘Time is life, do not misuse it.”  In this manner when parents take charge and become exemplary, they can remove numerous discomforts from the family.  However mischievous your child may be, if we handle them in a right manner, they will become the light of the family and the community. 

If you nurture the child on the basis of Word of God, in the future they will establish a good home, making their parents happy. 

In the Holy family there were struggles, poverty and problems, but the birth of Lord Jesus transformed that family.  By respecting, obeying His parents and always helping them, Jesus produced comfort and joys in that little family. 

Thus if you discipline your children according to the Word of God from childhood, you can build many families like the Holy Family.  Your house will be transformed into a home of hard work, discipline, the spirit of prayer and comfort.

‘But my children are grown up… what should I do?’  Don’t Worry!

You still can show interest to send them to the spiritual classes that are prepared by the Holy Spirit and for spiritual retreats.  Bring home good pocket books based on the Bible and good CD's of spiritual songs. 

Dear parents, if you pay attention to this, the Lord will become your refuge and your children will themselves be inspired. 

Like shining lights as per your dreams they will become gift of God by spreading good deeds in home and society.  The crab who walks only in one direction can’t teach his children to walk in the right way.  Children very quickly learn to imitate their parents.  You might have heard this old saying. ‘I want to become like my mother or my father’. 

So become parents who give good examples to their children.  If parents develop their children in the right way, then God will surely bless the parents. 

May Lord Jesus who spread the light in the Holy Family bless you!